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A Thanksgiving Ritual

By:
Susan Ford Collins
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In our family, Thanksgiving is about much more than just food! Oh yes, every year I make homemade cranberry sauce, a huge rice-stuffing filled turkey roasted with onions, mushrooms and carrots till golden brown, along with neatly trimmed broccoli "trees" for the kids, and a mouth-watering array of regular as well as gluten-free pumpkin pies. But most delicious of all (tucked inconspicuously among the silverware and napkins on our long cloth-covered table) we have something more. A ritual!

Little 3" x 3" slips of colorful paper are set under the napkins beside each person's plate... along with small stubby pens... so that when the meal is over and we're still too full for dessert, we can write each other messages about "something you did or you were this year that really mattered to me... a phone call at just the right time, a welcome word of praise, a hug or smile that was desperately needed; the kind of mother or friend you were; the example you set that made the way easier for someone else in the family. Something you probably don't even remember, but I do. And I want to thank you for doing it or being it." Then we share our notes with everyone else at the table.

On Thanksgivings when we have lots of guests, instead of writing our messages, we go around the table sharing them out loud, generating smiles, hearty chuckles and even grateful tears. Spoken words are wonderful, but words written have an advantage... They last! In the months that follow, we've all noticed these saved "things that really mattered to me" slips of paper posted on refrigerator doors, pinned on bulletin boards or neatly creased and folded in bowls of seashells, sea glass and other memorabilia. These tiny notes serve as powerful reminders too. On particularly challenging days, it's wonderful to reread what was said about us and, even more heartwarming, to recall what was said about our kids. To know about the kind deeds they've done for others that we would never otherwise hear about, or be able to enjoy.

And, now that these notes have become a family ritual, we're on the lookout all year for experiences we can write on next year's colorful Thanksgiving notes! But we frequently deliver them long before knowing there'll be lots more by then!

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